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Being Friends With Other Happy Couples Is Good For Your Marriage

Happy couples are everywhere, but even the best marriage takes work and goes through periods of, well, down-time. Stress, financial worries, family issues and more can weigh down on you and you find yourselves taking out your frustrations on the people you love most…usually your spouse and kids. A great way to ease the tension in a marriage during those blah life moments is to have fun together, and apparently the kind of fun you have makes a difference in whether you have a happy marriage or not.

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Many happy couples have a date night, which is a fabulous idea, especially if you have kids and don’t otherwise get to spend much romantic time alone. It turns out, though, that most happily married couples have another habit that keeps them bonded. Not only do they have fun once in a while alone together, but happy couples also have fun with other happy couples in strong marriages. In fact, couples who are friends with other conjugally blissful folks (as opposed to having no friends, unhappily coupled friends, or a lot of single friends), and have double date nights or spend time socially with those happy pairs, tend to have the strongest and most durable marriages. Spending time socially with other couples who are positive about marriage reinforces your own bond, makes you feel good about being with your mate, and who doesn’t want to have fun anyway?

Double Date Night With Other Happy Couples Supports A Strong and Happy Marriage

What does this mean for you? Well, if your social lives revolve around always being alone together, or spending your evenings apart going out with your single friends, this doesn’t bode well. It also doesn’t help to have friends who mistreat their spouse, complain about marriage, encourage you to leave your spouse at home and go out without them, or otherwise cause more stress for you. Having some single friends is fine, but striving to find like-minded happily married folks who would love to try out new restaurants with you, team up for a bowling league, or other hobby you enjoy is a great way to socialize together, and with others.

So, if you have no married friends, maybe it’s time to start joining groups and organizations where you can meet some. My church has a Mr. and Mrs. Club, and there is also a local bowling league for married couples, community cooking classes for couples, and more options that encourage you to spend time together, and out with others as well. They are lots of fun, and couples that play together stay together, so look for ways to have a great time together, and make friends with happily married people who feel the same way for a fun double date night!

  • Anne - Mommy Has to Work

    I’m hoping when we move we will meet more couples to hang with.

  • Tammy

    My husband and I do most things with our kids. We don’t get that many chances to do anything without them.

  • My exa and I did lots of couple nights. We would play games, go out to eat, have them over, all kinds of things. I loved it, and I really did prefer to have friends who were married because of the common interests.

  • Kenda

    Excellent article. My husband and I have been discussing this recently. We fall into that ‘together or apart’ trap all the time because we can’t seem to find couples who a) can go out when we can and b) aren’t into drinking all night (we’re too old for that!) But we’re still trying!

  • Zippy Sandler

    My husband is anti-social…REALLY. So, that will never happen.

  • Marcie W.

    Our closest couple friends are my sister & brother in law. The four of us hang every Wednesday like clockwork and I love we’re all friends.

  • Great post. We have one couple that have a great relationship we are with often. It is so nice to go out together, chat etc!

  • i agree it is so good to spend time with other couples

  • never thought of this and honestly not all of our friends are married and they aren’t really that happy. Just gives us stuff to talk about. Were pretty happy.

  • Theresa

    So true!

  • Kelly @ Texas Type A Mom

    My husband and I are definitely home bodies but I can see how having other happy couples to hang out with would be good for your marriage. Seeing couples that are unhappily married can really be draining and stressful situations and do nothing to reinforce your relationship.

  • Donna

    My hubby is anti-social, too. I have a couple of close friends that I get to have GNO occasionally, but not often. We usually just do things as a family or with other family members, when I can make my husband do even that (and it’s usually his family). 🙂

  • I had no idea. That is very interesting!

  • I think that is definitely important unfortunately we don’t have any other married couples we hang with. HOpefully that will change as we have just been in Florida for a little over a year.

  • Lolo

    I do love hanging out with other couples. Especially ones with kids too. Fun to chat and laugh!

  • Hubs and I organize a monthly couples night out, and enjoy hanging out with our married friends.

  • I absolutely agree!

  • This is so true, we need to expand our friends

  • nicole @WriteSpell

    Having happy couples to go out and do things with is great!

  • We do most things together but there are times we go along with other couples as well.

  • Shop with Me Mama (Kim)

    We have one other happy couple with kids that we hang out with. Love them! We always have a ton of fun together 🙂

  • Maureen @ Wisconsin Mommy

    We have been lucky enough to meet some other couples who we like AND the kids get along as well! It definitely makes getting together easier 🙂

  • April Decheine

    It is so important to be surrounded by other couples with positive energy and zero drama!

  • This is a great idea. It made me realize we do have a few couples that we are good friends with and we always have fun with them because they love each other, and it shows.