Anniversary gifts are often seen as a barometer for a relationship, with romantic presents like jewelry believed to be indicative of a great marriage, and a practical gift of, say, a universal remote control meaning that maybe your husband isn’t feeling that romantic about you at the moment.
Personally, I generally agree with this. I’d much rather get a pair of diamond earring and flowers as anniversary gifts than an exercise bike or a tool kit. I’d wonder what my husband was thinking about if I opened up a grill pan for our anniversary. Actually, I’d know what he was thinking about. Food. For him. On a day he should have been thinking about me.
So I’m one of those gals who thinks anniversary gifts are kind of important.
I get that sometimes finances are tight. I also get that there are women who prefer practical anniversary gifts that are utterly unromantic. But I think they are the exception, women who think a present of sweat pants says “I love you”. I love thoughtful gifts too, like a beautiful eReader cover or girly bike helmet, but for me, those are great for a birthday or “just because”, not something that celebrates the day my husband and I became one. Unless he wants to get me an anklet and the cover too. But just the cover? No no no no.
My husband and I have only been married for four years, but he often outdoes himself, especially one year where he surprised me with a white sapphire hearts anklet, a day at the spa, and a romantic dinner, as well as small, sentimental tokens (from a usually non-sentimental guy). It was a great day that made me feel the focus was just on making me happy to be with him, and our love for each other.
The funniest (read: oddest) anniversary gift was the year that, in addition to a gold locket, I opened up a box of Kahlua-flavored cigars. My twice a year cigar-smoking husband explained “You love Kahlua, and said you think cigars smell and taste stinky, so I got you some that you’d like. Now you can smoke with me.” It’s the thought that counts, and I have to admit I loved my Kahlua cigars.
Wonderful anniversaries are important for a happy marriage because it’s something for a couple to look back on and draw from when times becomes harder, finances become tougher, children and busyness comes along, etc. It’s great to build a lifetime of good memories to help keep a marriage strong. A good friend of mine says she never gets anniversary gifts at all, except for the year her husband got her a screw driver so she could fix things around the house herself instead of “bugging him all the time”. It was a pink screw driver, “for girls”, and it’s a good thing she has a great sense of humor, because I think I would have found it less funny than she did!
A new movie, “Hope Springs”, stars Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones (what a great screen pair!) as a couple with a generally happy marriage striving to bring back that spark, with the help of Steve Carrel, their marriage therapist. You know this is going to be a funny movie, great to watch with the husband or friends, and I can not wait to see it. You can click the logo at the top to go to the movie website.
Watch the trailer here: