Having a baby is a life changing experience, starting with the major changes on a woman mentally, physically, and in her relationships with those around her. At the end, she brings home a little bundle of cuteness that causes greater life changes in her life and relationships.
Having someone else’s baby? A woman goes through the same journey, but at the end, she doesn’t bring home a baby. Instead, she has to make the difficult and painful decision to give the baby a better future, but allowing it to be raised by something else.
Needless to say, a totally different pregnancy experience. And you can see it unfold on a new docu-series on the Oxygen network, I’m Having Their Baby.
I’m Having Their Baby is an emotional six part series that follows the pregnancies and births of women who decided to make this choice. It starts this Monday, July 23 at 11PM ET/PT, and you’ll have an intimate view of what goes on in the mind and life of a woman who makes this difficult decision, including meeting some of the adoptive parents, watching the birth and the moment she officially decides, and seeing the aftermath. Each installation will follow two pregnant women facing an unplanned pregnancy and one of life’s biggest dilemmas.
Personally, I think adoption is a beautiful choice. When a woman is not capable of caring for a baby with 100% of her heart and ability, she is doing a wonderful thing for the child to give him or her an opportunity to be loved by a couple that is totally ready. It’s also a blessing for the family that is waiting to welcome a baby into their family. Nevertheless, it is a heart wrenching choice for the mother, who wants the best for her child, even if that means she can’t be the parent.
Oxygen is hosting a discussion during the show to talk about these real stories as we watch them unfold, and to share our reactions and thoughts (and I’ll be there). Participate in the OxygenLive Chat here on Monday evening!
A reader has the opportunity to win a $100 Visa gift card! To enter, simply leave a comment below sharing your experience with adoption, or your thoughts on the wonderful sacrifice these women are making for their children. Readers who also participate in the discussion Monday night while watching the first installment of the show are eligible for five extra entries (please let me know you are participating so I can add the entries, and a winner will be chosen on Tuesday).
Visit the I’m Having Their Baby website to see what all the excitement is about. Find I’m Having Their Baby on Facebook and on Twitter.
I not dealt with adoption personally but I think it is one of the most unselfish things a mother can do for her child. I know so many people who have fertility issues and would make wonderful parents who would be happy to adopt!
What a wonderful and unselfish gift to give to a couple who can’t have children. We suffered infertility for years and were going to adopt if the IVF didn’t work out.
I don’t have any personal experience with adoption but I know quite a few families who have adopted and it’s such an awesome experience for both the family and adopted child. To see their lives transformed by one another is so amazing! ♥
I wish we still had cable, I’d totally check out the new show!
I think adoption is awesome. My cousin started an organization called one church one child and I think that’s what got me started thinking about adoption. I would love to adopt a child but I’m not sure I have the financial resources at this time. I think about it constantly.
I have the utmost respect for persons who adopt – a friend has adopted 2 chinese girls and it’s been the best thing that’s ever happened to her.
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I”m so grateful to those that recognize that adoption would be best for them. They are strong women and also those that do surrogacy.
Our dear friends were so fortunate to have adopted their son, 19 years ago. They weren’t able to have children, but all their heartache turned into joy with their son. I think that adoption is wonderful.
My experience with adoption is the fact that I am adopted.
I have the deepest respect for women who choose adoption. I’m very excited to watch this show because it’s something that’s not discussed often.
My aunt adopted three children. These were all children with some problems. They are all wonderfully adapted adults. Adoption is a wonderful thing that can help many people.
I think adoption is a really sensitive subject. I can see how the stories would be very compelling to watch, but I wonder if it’s too private a matter for reality tv.
I think is great idea to watch the series regarding adoption, so those who are thinking of adopting can learn what to expect.
I think that surrogacy is an amazing thing to do for another couple but I could never do it. I had such a rough pregnancy that it’s hard for me to imagine going through all of it and then having to give child away. There are so many children that need good homes that fostering and/or adoption seem like a better way to go.
My thoughts: This show sounds terribly exploitative to all parties involved.
great thing that women do if they cant take care of the child
I think it takes a very strong person to give their child up for adoption after 9 months of bonding. Adoption is a great way to give the baby a brighter future and to possibly help a family who might not otherwise be able to have children.
I think adoption is a miraculous gift of love. I’ve know friends on both sides of adoption and to see that kind of love is amazing.
We have looked into adoption. The fees are outrages! I can afford to feed, house, clothes, and school a child, I just can’t afford all the costs and fees of the adoption agencies. I wish this would change–it shouldn’t cost anything.
I think it is so wonderful that women do this to help other families.
I am a mom blessed with 6 children and they are my life. Although I could not make the choice to let a child of mine go to the arms of another mom, I do SO admire those who can make that choice. I have family members who are unable to have children. Two cousins have adopted children and it has made their lives so full, so amazing for another to do that selfless act. The children are well cared for and undeniably loved beyond compare. I know people who have been adopted though, and for some it brings poor self esteem and so many questions. Those cases from long ago may have had secrets and often forced adoption for those young women who did not know what to do. Now, so much is in the open, many are open adoptions and so shared that children are not thought of as disposed but wanted with all the love those families could ever offer. I believe adoption works, is reasonable and healthy and necessary…as long as the child is allowed answers and honesty. I think all people deserve this.
My husband adopted my daughter when she was five. Her biological father wanted nothing to do with her after he got remarried. The adoption was the best thing for her.
I’ve never had children but I love the idea of adoption as there are so many reasons children can be left behind or people desiring children cannot have them.
I have no experience with adoption but like you, I believe that it is truly a gift for those who are able to adopt. As a mother, I am certain that women choosing to put their child up for adoption do so with much agony. That being said, I do think that mothers who make that choice to give their child a better life than what they can provide are very brave. I also think that open adoption with the chance that the child can someday get to know their birth parent is a good thing.
I think I would grow too attached. It is a beautiful thing for a woman to do!
I think htis a selfless act for someone to do
No experience here with adoption but I think it’s a wonderful thing for people who do adopt! The world needs more great families to adopt
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One of my close friends adopted a baby through a Christian agency that lets the mothers choose the family their baby will be adopted by. He is now three and such a precious child. My friend’s family has been so blessed to have him in their lives. It is a wonderful thing- and I am so thankful for those women who make this unselfish choice!
Believe adoption is a wonderful gift to another family!
My best friend for 17 years was adopted. You would never know it, her adoptive parents are wonderful and don’t treat any of their children different!
I have had friends and relatives realize their dreams of parenthood through adoption. It has to be the most unselfish act a mother can do, giving her child to a better life.
Having spoken with birth mothers of all ages I do have experience with this subject. I think it’s important to note that although this is the happiest day on earth for the adoptive parents, it can be the saddest day for the birth parents, mothers especially. Adoption can be a wonderful thing, but it has long lasting implications for everyone involved.
we hope to adopt from the foster care system soon – and i hope this series dispells some of the rumors and misconceptions about adoption!
Im so happy to see women willing to do this for another couple,too many women keep their children an cannot take care of them properly,,we adopted our daughter out of foster care,an she an her 4 siblings had been in an out of the system so much,,she was 12 when she came to us an my heart just broke seeing her come in with a garbage bag with her belongings,,I swore then that she would never be hurt again,,,she is now 20yrs old an is our “baby” we have 5 older kids,,that range in age from 38 to 27yrs old, so its never too late to give a home to a child who needs one
I’m all for adoption. Sometimes it’s the best thing for everyone involved.
Two of my cousins are adopted and I know if I can’t have children myself I would definitely adopt and I am looking forward to this show.
I think realizing someone else can provide a better life for your child is one of the hardest yet most “motherly” choices someone can make. It must be such a bittersweet experience.
My hubster is adopted and I can see the questions and concerns from the adoptees side. I think being a surrogate or or putting your baby is the greatest gift for the child.
I don’t have experience in this area but I would love the GC to help a friend adopting.
I’m so interested in this show – I can’t imagine carrying a baby that you don’t get to keep at the end, although my husband and I had started to consider adoption with all of our conception difficulty!
I think adoption is the ultimate sacrifice.
I’m not an adoptive parent but have thought of becoming one. What an amazing experience it would be to bring a child into your home and surround them with love.
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adoption is the nicest thing loving parents could do for a child.
My sister adopted a baby from COlumbia, He is the sweetest thing ever~
My husband’s brother and his wife have adopted two babies. Thank you for the giveaway!
i like its a wonderful thing to do
I support adoption completely. In fact, I wish I’d been adopted myself but, unfortunately, my biological parents decided to keep me.
I was a teen mom and had to consider the decision of adoption, but didnt go through with it. I just couldnt imagine someone else raising my child.
I always wanted to adopt even though I was able to have 4 beautiful children. I think it is the best opportunity you can be given to love a child with all your heart who might not have had experienced the love of a parent otherwise.
I’m adopted and never met my bio parents. I will definetly be watching.
I personally don’t have experiences of adoption however I’m all for it.It’s such a great thing to give blessings to needed children.
I think adoption is wonderful & i also believe women who have children and know they will never love them should give them up for adoption rather than abusive and eventually kill them .
I dont have any experiences with adoption but i know if i got pregnant sometime soon i would choose adoption .I’m a 20 year old mom and student ,I rely on my dad to support my daughter & i .He told me to finish my education so i can support my daughter later on in the future .I am lucky to have his support but another child would definitely be even harder to take care of .
My middle son met his wife and her 1 month old son 7 years ago. He’s the only dad my grandson has ever known, and was recently officially adopted into our family. As for giving up a child for adoption, I don’t know if I could, but I admire those that do so the child can have a better life.
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My cousin was adopted.
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I don’t personally have any experience with adoption, but I applaud those that have adopted. Children cannot control who their biological parents are and deserve a fair chance at a wonderful, loving life.
I have no personal experience with adoption, but hope someday to adopt–an older child, though, not a newborn. I have a great deal of respect for the choice that these women make, whatever the reason. Although it can be the best choice for the child (and the parents, a lot of the time), it definitely isn’t an easy decision to make.
I think dealing with this would be a tough experience for any woman.
a very unselfish choice
My best friend was adopted and she is so grateful to her adoptive parents.
I think choosing to give a child to another for whatever your reason is very selfless. I am glad so many adoptions are more open now and birth parents can sometimes keep up with the kids. I am very interested in seeing the show.
I think it’s one of the most amazing unselfish things someone could ever do. I know that a lot of adopted children feel that they weren’t loved so they were given up but I like to think that they were so very special that they were chosen by their adoptive parents.
My cousin is adopted. His birth mother was college student who met my aunt and uncle when they were finishing their Masters degrees. We are lucky to have him in the family. debbie jackson,
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I admire people who choose adoption for the right reasons, when it is truly the right thing for their children. I also admire the parents who adopt these precious babies, and love them like their own.
My niece and nephew are adopted.
Adoption is a beautiful thing!
I believe that most (not all) of the people who want to adopt, truly wish to be a parent. It’s such a sad thing that there are kids who end up unwanted, abandoned and abused by their biological parents.
My friend is single, successful and is in the process of adopting two kids (siblings). She has such a big hears and I think she’s wonderful for giving two kids a good, loving home.
i don’t have any experience with adoption, but i am sure it must be a very emotional time for everyone involved.
I have never had to give up a child for adoption. But I know its something that I could not do. I am close to my family and I wear my heart on my sleeves when it comes to my loved ones. I am constantly keeping in touch with them so not being able to do that would be a no no for me. I dont know how people do it, but it takes a lot of strength
What a brave, tough decision to put one’s baby up for adoption. Have a friend who adopted and was a wonderful experience.
my sister gave up a babe for adoption, she was too young, often wonder how he turned out, have no clue what happened to him or even who he is
I think it is absolutely wonderful!
I’m interested to see how the subject matter is handled. I think adoption is a beautiful thing but not an easy choice on the part of the biological mother.
Adoption really is an awesome choice and I have such respect for women who choose this instead of 1. Abortion or 2. Selfishly keeping the baby even when they know full well they can’t love or care for it properly.
Having had a daughter of my own, I cannot imagine the turmoil these mother’s go through on having to give that baby up. They are truly doing what’s best.
Thanks for posting this, I’ll try to catch the show!
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Adoption is a Godly thing to do.
It’s wonderful, the parents that choose to help out with adoption. There are so many children that need loving homes, and I admire those that can offer them.
I have some friends who are adopted. I think birth Moms who give up their baby because they don’t feel they can raise them are making the ultimate sacrafice. It’s something I would consider.
We have had a few foster children and I think that it is just amazing to get to change a kid’s life that way. One of our foster children has gone back to his mom but we still see him on a regular basis. The improvement that he has shown since he first came to us is phenomenal. I just love getting to help kids be the best that they can be.
Our grandson was adopted years ago in an open adoption. We have been lucky to be able to be grandparents and see him often.
I can’t wait to watch the show; I think it will be interesting to see all sides of the story. I think women who make the decision to give up their child for adoption are so selfless; what an incredible act of love to go through the whole pregnancy and then gift their precious cargo to someone who can give them a beautiful life.
What a selfless act adoption is. I look forward to watching this show!
What a wonderful, selfless gift! I don’t know if I could do it.
My niece and nephew are adopted. While it is not really talked about as to why my brother and sister-in-law did not conceive themselves, they are great parents.
I think its really great. Thanks for this opportunity
Adoption is a wonderful thing. I think about that with myself and am not sure I could do it.
Adoption is absolutely a wonderful option. I will definitely be watching this show!
I think adoption is wonderful, it has to be so very hard on these mother’s to give up their babies they must think of their babies every day, my heart goes out to them.
I wasn’t adopted as a baby but my stepdad adopted me when I was 10. He had been more of a father to me than my biological father had ever been and him legally changing my name and forcing my deadbeat bio dad to relinquish custody was such an act of love.
This sounds like such an interesting show!
Putting up a child is a very courageous and unselfish act. I’m not sure I could do it myself.
I think the woman carrying the baby is making a big sacrifice indeed. Anyone getting into these arrangements must know upfront the legalities involved. At least the baby will be going to a loving caring home
I have a niece and nephew that are adopted. I love them more than anything. I’ve also decided to adopt sometime in the near future, and it’s been a goal since I was a child. I can’t wait to watch the show and see these stories.
What a wonderful selfless gift
A family member of mine just adopted a little Ethiopian boy! He is such a blessed addition to their family!
Adoption is a blessing!!!!
I think it’s wonderful for people to adopt and it’s a shame it’s such a difficult process.
I think it’s an incredibly selfless choice and I really admire women who adopt kids and give their children up for adoption. I will definitely watch the premiere on Monday!
We are pro-life, and adoption is a wonderful option for woman who cannot raise a child rather than aborting it.
I found out when I was 17 that I couldn’t have kids, so adoption has always been a consideration of mine. I know lots of people who are adopted and who have adopted. they are so happy! I’ve decided once I get married I want to adopt!
I have an adopted family and would love to adopt myself.
I look forward to watching this show as I would love to adopt.
Giving up a child to try to ensure a better life for him/her is one of the most selfless acts that I can imagine. I cannot imagine the heart breaking pain of letting your child go even when you know it is for their benefit. These women will have a special place in heaven.
I think that adoption is a beautiful thing. People who were not able to have children are given a gift that will change their lives forever.
The women who come to this decision for the good of their child have my admiration. It has to be the most difficult thing in their life, ever.
i think its an amazing gift and for that right reasons, can do alot of good
I think these women are courageous and selfless!
I think the families involved on both sides of adoption are amazing – the women who give their child to someone else and the families who love those children as their own! Truly touching!
I am adopted and very grateful for a woman who knew she couldn’t take care of me and a family that adopted me.
adoption is such a great thing.i can’t wait to watch the show
I have. Friend that was adopted by wonderful parents. He wouldn’t trade it for the world. Thanks for the giveaway.
I think this is going to be an interesting show. Showing how it is for the mom’s who are choosing to give up their baby for adoption. I am interested to see how the journey is for the women who make this selfless decision.
I admire those who choose adoption, its a win win for everyone involved. Cant wait to see this show!
I think this is a really cool premise! Most adopted children eventually want to know about their biological parent or what it was like when they were given for adoption. This way it’s chronicled and they will know what it was like!
My sister, who is unable to have children,adopted 2 special needs children
I think its such an amazing gift not only to the new parents, but also to the children. A new life, one that the mother for whatever reason did not feel that she could provide at that time in her life, and a new chance at life. Almost a rebirth! My heart goes out to the mother, as I cant even begin to imagine her heartache, and also the heartache that she will carry with her for a lifetime. Such a wonderful gift to the new parents who where probably unable to have their own children! I am going to watch the show and I hope they show normal people and not ones that are way over the top just for the show. Real feelings and real people I hope!
I think it’s an amazing choice these women are making, for themselves and the babies they carry.
What a wonderful, selfless thing for these women to do. I want to watch this show.
I THINK ADOPTION IS THE ULTIMATE SACRIFICE FOR THE WELL BEING OF YOUR CHILD..NOT ONLY ARE YOU GIVING ANOTHER FAMILY AN UNBELIEVABLE GIFT BUT YOU ARE PROVIDING YOUR CHILD WITH A LIFE AND LOVE THAT YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO PROVIDE FOR THEM..AMAZING 🙂
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hope to win, I am planning on having a baby in the future
I am adopted so for me its a very positive experience, I know my birth Mother but she is certainly not somebody I would wish to be raised by.
I don’t have any experience with adoption but I do understand how difficult a choice it is and how sometimes the best thing we can do for someone we love is to give them the best life possible, even if that is not with you.
I myself have never experience or known anyone adopted
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I am all for adoption. It allows your child to possibly have a better life if you cannot support or take care of him/her. And it gives someone a precious gift.
Sounds like a good show in terms of showing the perspective of what mothers go through when adopting their children to another family. I’m planning on watching this. I have a good friend who is adopted and she is very happy being a part of her adopted family. People always make comments about how much she looks like her dad! I think adoption is the right thing to do if a woman decides that she and her family are unable to care for her child. There are many families who are not able to have children of their own and can give a loving, stable and healthy environment to an adoptive child.
I will be participating in the discussion on Monday Night!
I admire anyone who has given up a child for adoption. I feel it is the biggest sacrifice a couple can make for their child.
I had a school friend who knew very early she was adopted and as an adult she found her birth mother nd it was a happy experience for all…being a mother of a 16 year old..I can’t imagine giving up my child…saying that ..I think it is the ultimate sacrifice a mother can make if she thinks someone else is more capable of caring for her child
My cousin has two adopted children. She is forever grateful to the birth moms who blessed her and made their dream of having a family a reality.
Though I have never adopted, I am so glad that there are families/individuals out there that are able to do it. What a wonderful experience for the adopters and the adoptees.
While the sacrifice these women are making is wonderful it must be very difficult. It shows that these mothers love their unborn children very much and are incredibly strong.
I have not anyone personally who has chosen adoption, but I do respect these women for being so brave. I can’t imagine how difficult it would be to do this. They truly are amazing women.
I love that these women are choosing adoption! If you cannot care for your child properly, I think that this is the next next best choice. I was diagnosed with endometriosis when I was only 18 so there’s chance that I’ll be unable to have kids. I found this out before I was even thinking about having them, though I’ve always loved kids and wanted to get married and have a big family. The disease gets worse as time goes on so by the time I’m actually ready to have kids, my reproductive organs might be too badly damaged for it. I just hope that if that’s the case, then I’ll find a woman like the ones that will be on the show when I choose the adoption route.
I think adoption is great. There are so many couples who want to give their hearts to a child.
my great grandson is in the proces of this right now but mom has decided she wants him back he has been with this other family 2 yrs. adoption is great i pray they can keep him.he is nt biological great grandson
it is great,my biological great grandson is going thru this, family have had him 2 yrs and mom wants him back–hope not adoption can be great
My life has been blessed through adoption as I have two nieces and one nephew that would not have been part of my family otherwise.
You have to be such a strong and selfless person to do this.
I think adoption is awesome. 🙂
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I think adoption is a wonderful gift for those who cannot have a baby of their own!
I think it’s great to give up your baby to give it a better life if you can’t care for it yourself. But I can’t imagine what it would be like to do it myself. I would always wonder whether the baby was haveing a good life or not. I worry that with my foster cats & kittens, so I can’t even imagine how I would feel about a child I gave birth to.
Truly a wonderful person who understands she is unable to care for a child and still wants the very best for that child. Totally selfless.
Those who are adopted are wanted and loved very much.
I have a friend who is adopted and I think it’s great that he got a chance to live a great life with a wonderful family when he may not have had the chance to live as good a life if his birth mother kept him.
I think adoption is wonderful. It is one of the most precious gifts one woman can give another. My sister adopted her son 8 years ago. It is the best thing she has ever done. he has brought so much joy into all our life’s. He is almost 10 yrs old and knows he was adopted. He thinks it is super coll that his parents picked him to be their child. Adoption is a very tough choice for anyone, but it also is an amazing gift.
If someone can’t care of the baby, it is the right decision to give the baby to a family who can. It is a very difficult decision but it is best for the mother and the baby
I don’t know anyone who went through an adoption experience. It would have to be tough!
the mothers have to be sooo strong.i don’t think icould havecarried my 4 children and given them up for adoption.there is so much bonding.thanks to all the women(girls?) that are strong enough.my brother and his wife adopted 2 babies.in this family( and i think most)it does not matter if you are born into the family or given as a gift,their is lots of love to share.
I have never adopted and don’t know anyone that has but I think it is great! I applaud those who give homes to children
I’ve known a few that have been adopted.
I have good friends who adopted a little boy 3 years ago and they make a wonderful family.
Thanks for the contest.
I do not personally know anyone that was adopted or gone through adoption. I do however know that my mother was suppose to give me to her oldest sister when I was born, however she changed her mind at the last second… she was only 17 when she had me. cfingram @ gmail.com
My bf in third grade was adopted. she was proud to be a chosen child. adoption is a beautiful, loving option.
My family has been created by adoption so I love the idea of this program.
I know some lovely adopted children and would like to think that their birth mothers are comforted by the knowledge that the children are well cared for. It must be very difficult to give a child up for adoption.
My husband and I had looked into adoption after trying for 12 years to have our own. We was put on a waiting list for at least a 2 year wait. A miracle happened during that wait and we got pregnant on our own. My daughter is now 5. She is spoiled rotten, she is truly a miracle.
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The show looks very interesting and I have seen the trailers all day today for it. My sister and her husband have infertility problems and would love to adopt.
I have no personal experience with adoption, but I think it is the most wonderful gift. There are people out there wishing for children. I cannot imagine not having my daughter, and my heart goes out to all that either are not in a position to give their child all they want or need, and those that desperately want children and cannot have them.
One of my Brothers adopted his oldest Son. Adoption is wonderful and heartbreaking at the same time. I don’t get the Oxygen Channel, but if I did, I would watch this show.
love the idea of adoption.I never got the chance to do this years ago.
this is a great sacrafice how courageous
One of my brother-in-laws was adopted and I felt funny knowing it years before he did.
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I think adoption is a wonderful thing. When one mother can’t care for her child, and trusting another woman to give the baby a better life is wonderful.
Angels are always among us.
Adoption the a wonderful option for giving children a chance to have a good life-and be very wanted.
My parents adopted two children when I was 3 years old. My sister and brother were 6 & 7 at the time that they came to live with us. Adoption is a wonderful thing.
I do not have any personal experience with adoption, but I have a good friend who is adopted. She has never sought out her birth parents, but she is grateful to them for realizing that they could not care for a baby, and decided that the best thing would be to put her up for adoption. She loves her adoptive parents so much and can’t even think of having a life without them.
Thanks Oxygen its fun to follow and wishful thinking for winning
After we have our last natural born child, my husband and I have looked into adopting or fostering children in need, especially older children who often do not get adopted as quickly.
There are wonderful benefits on both sides of this issue. The birth mother is doing what’s best for the baby and the adoptive parents are given the gift of a lifetime.
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I love my children and give up everything to make their lives better. I didn’t adopt them but I think adoption is a wonderful option for those who want children and can not have their own.
I think adoption is a great and wonderfull thing! I think its a blessing for people who cannot have children of thir own to get that chance to love a child they so despretly want and need!!!
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I personally could never go through with giving up my baby for adoption, but I think it’s wonderful some people do. It makes other people’s dreams come true and gives the child the best life they can.
i have an aunt that adopted five children and i think its great that she was able to provide them the safety and comfort their parents couldnt.
Adoption is such a wonderful option – I only wish it was an easier process, as many women who want to adopt do so because they are having difficulties getting pregnant. These women are already going through a lot, and the adoption process can be rough on them. That being said, I am sure once they are through the process and have the reward of a sweet child, it is worth it! I also think adoption is a GREAT option for same-sex couples.
I fully support adoption, my Uncle was adopted and I love him very much I could not imagine my life without him in it. His mother aperantly could not afford to give him a good life so I praise her in her descision to give him to a family that could. Also my step daughter is not technoly adopeted but her story is my husband dated her mother for awhile and her mother didn’t know who the father was so my husband signed paternity of her and now she lives with me and her father not her biological mother or father and we love her all the same she is our daughter.
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I think adoption is a WONDERFUL and beautiful thing!! I hope to adopt my own child someday.
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My husband is adopted, and we went through the process of finding his birth mother.
I think adoption is great. It gives both sides a chance 🙂
My friend adopted and it was such a long hard process but worth it. She loves her son and he is in a very positive environment so it was a win win.
There are so many children that can use a good home and a good mom and there are so many womens wanting to take care of them that it should be made a lot easier and affordable than what it is.
I don’t have any personal experience with adoption but I think it’s great that when a woman knows she can’t take care of her baby whatever the circumstances that she will put the baby up for adoption so they can have a better life.
I myself was adopted by my dad…and it was the best thing that ever happened to me!!
My father was adopted and my grandparents (his adoptive parents) are the most caring people I know. Adoption is a wonderful thing 🙂
I do think it is a wonderful sacrifice that these women are giving for the precious little ones. What a wonderful, selfless, giving nature one must have to be so completely open and loving.
One of my good friends was adopted and I remember when he made the decision to find his birth parents and when he did he found out that they had been teenagers and felt that they could not properly support a child. He realized in that moment what they had done for him and they still communicate to this day.
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There is no greater gift to give a child than the hope of a good life.
I have never experienced adoption, but I have one daughter and I have one on the way I know that choice for someones life has to be hard. When I got pregnant with my daughter I was only a senior at high school and that option has crossed my mind, but I knew mentally and physically I was not strong enough to give up my child. I am so proud of those brave women that choose that choice everyday. It’s not that you are weak and can not care for a baby, it’s that you are strong enough to give someone else life because at this moment a child is not right for you.
Adopting or giving up a baby must be a hard decision for every woman.
My younger daughter is adopted, and I have 2 nephews and a niece who are adopted, so we are pretty aware of some of the ins and outs of the process from the adoptive family side. Despite all of the attention given to adoptees who want to ‘find their roots’, my daughter does NOT want to learn anything about her biological parents. She says she has a perfectly good family, and doesn’t need another one. I know that my niece was doing some searching a few years back, but don’t know if she really learned something–the only thing they all would really like to have is more medical history available. This is especially true for my sister’s 2 since she was a diabetic and they know the problems that can arise from a chronic disease.
Someday, I want to adopt 2 children.. from the United States. I understand why people adopt outside the U.S.A but there are so many hurting children needing families in our own country.
No personal experience. But beyond very thoughtful. Wonderful thing they are doing.
It shows a great level of love. However, it’s not something I want to see. Is anything private anymore?
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I think adoption is a wonderful thing and a very selfless act for a mother to do. I know several people who have been adopted or have adopted kids themselves.
I can understand all about the process. We have 2 adopted children, with both experiences being completely different.
I think the mother’s who make the ultimate sacrifice to give up their children for adoption are heros. The first part of being a parent is wanting what is best for our children. I applaud all parents out there who think of the children first.
I think the mother’s who make the ultimate sacrifice to give up their children for adoption are heros. The first part of being a parent is wanting what is best for our children. I applaud all parents out there who think of the children first.
My 2 cousins were adopted and I have considered it for myself. I think it a beautiful gift.
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I think adoption is great and it can save the lives of a lot of children.
Laws and attitudes about adoption have changed tremendously during my lifetime – and for the Better!
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I can only imagine the hurt of the birth mother when they give up their babies. I’ve never had to do it, but I simply can’t imagine giving either of my babies away to someone else. I started watching MTV’s “16 and Pregnant” while I was home on maternity leave with my first child and one of the teens gave her baby up for adoption against her parents’s wishes. It was so hard to watch and I was still so emotional about having my own baby. I’ve continued to watch their story on “Teen Mom” and I’ve watched several other adoption documentaries because they are usually extremely touching stories. I don’t expect anything less from this series and plan to watch.
I don’t have any personal experiences with adoption but being a mom myself I can only imagine how hard it must be to give up your child. The women that are brave enough to make that decision knowing that they cannot provide an ideal life for their child are simply amazing!
I truly admire the sacrifice that birth moms make for there children. Its truly a wonderful gift they give to there children and the adoptive families!!!
I have no adoption experience and don’t plan to
I admire these women who adopt. I know the sacrifices they make to adopt. I wish more people could sdopt.
I don’t have a personal experience related to adoption. I think it is a very hard, yet noble choice when you decide that is right for you. You are doing what a good mother should, putting your baby first.
I definitely think that it is a big sacrifice to give up being a mother to your child, so that they can have a better life than what their biological mom can offer. So many couples are out
there with the inability to have children of their own, and adoption is their only choice to have a child. To pair up families that are unable to have children yet have the resources to give
a child a wonderful home full of love, with mom’s who, while they love their babies, but want their child to have so much more than they are able to offer. Open adoption is a great choice because the biological parents can still be a part of the child’s life, albeit in a different role.
Closed adoption is also a good choice, if the biological parents cannot subject themselves
to say good-bye to their baby more than once. I think that keeping the adoption records
available to the adopted children is important because, that way, when they’re grown, they can find their birth parents and reconnect with them. I can’t imagine what a mom goes through to decide to give up their child for the child’s benefit. Surrogacy is really a wonderful opportunity because most parents stay in contact with the very special person that has carried their child through the nine months, and sometimes will allow that person to play a role in their child’s life, thankful for the gift that they would not have otherwise.
When I was little, my dad was a social worker for the local children’s home and I wanted my parents to adopt from there so that I could have additional siblings. They never did but I’ve always wanted to adopt since then.
I don’t have any personal experience with adoption but I think it’s the biggest most unselfish thing a woman can do and know a few people who have benefited from this act of love!
my nephew was adopted
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Thanks for the giveaway…my wife & I support adoption; both of us had siblings that were adopted, and our extended family has several adopted children. The show could shed a positive light on the “adoption option”.
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Putting a child up for adoption has to be the hardest decision imaginable but in many cases its the nobliest as well.
My husband’s co-worker is picking up her son this week from the birth mother. We’re all very excited and hope everything works out for all of the people involved!
My cousins were adopted and they were an important part of our family
I think it’s a tough decision and admire the people who make it
I think it would take amazing courage to give a baby up for adoption. Thank God there are women strong and brave enough to make the right choice for their babies!
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i think adoption is amazing for people who cant have children and birth mothers who cant care for their child.
I agree with your younger daughter…if I were to find out I was adopted, I can honestly say I’d have no interest in finding my bio parents. I’m a parent now, and I don’t feel a need in my life to know exactly where I’m from biologically if it wasn’t from my parents…I’m too focused on my kids and own family.
Thank you everyone for your comments on this episode. As the adoptive mom featured in this episode, your kind words meant a lot to me. Some of the editing in the sonogram scene made me feel bad watching it because the conversation about the clothes was actually taken from a completely separate interview and added into that scene. But, it didn’t seem to phase any of you. I felt it made me look very insensitive, but I think you all saw the scene as something else. Thank you! Watching this episode was very difficult for Joe and I… but we are so happy that we are still friends with Tory and Mike and we are blessed with our baby boy Ezra now. I wish the show was longer and offered much more insight to our story with them and elaborated to our friendship more. It was a very important piece of our adoption process. We feel that Tory made the best decision for the baby to keep her. We have all moved on from the heartache and all focus on what we have today. Beautiful, healthy babies and a lasting friendship. I do wish they hadn’t cut out all the times I told Tory I would support if if she changed her mind. That was disappointing to see. And we didn’t back out, it just fell apart. The show brought out a lot of emotions that we may not have otherwise been able to openly discuss… our close friendship also did that. lol
Stay tuned for the season finale, we will be doing a follow up with our baby boy Ezra and life now. Of course I was still in a lot of pain over losing “Eliza” when we filmed it… so I hope it is portrayed positively.
As an outsider watching Sharanda’s story… I was kinda pulling for them to keep their baby boy. But I am glad it worked out from them. 🙂
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I’m looking forward to the update, those are the best, and thank you for stopping by and sharing some insight. We don’t know how things are edited, but certainly us viewers are sympathetic to the process (both of adoption, and being on a show)…this show has really changed how I see it all and I’m grateful for a sort of “inside peak” to something I always wondered about. Thank you for sharing your story!