You feel loved when your husband helps out around the house, and he feels loved when you tell him you appreciate him. Or maybe you feel most loved when he spends quality time with you, and he wants lots of kissing and cuddling to feel that you care. There are 5 love languages, ways couples communicate with each other in their marriage to show love, and you may not have same needs as your husband or wife to feel that they care.
What are the Five Love Languages for married people? Physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, and receiving gifts. Most of use value each of these 5 love languages, but to different degrees. You may not care at all about receiving gifts, or need encouraging words, but your husband might. In fact, you may be giving your spouse what you need, thinking it will encourage him to reciprocate, or thinking that it’s showing him love because it’s a sign of love for you. Since it isn’t really what they need, it doesn’t mean much to them, and you are both frustrated in your marriage. Learning the Five Love Languages, and what language you and your spouse need commmunicated to feel loved, is a great way to make a daily effort to show your love and make your marriage stronger.
Check out the 5 Love Languages Assessments, so you can figure out how to best communicate with your husband or wife. If you know what the other needs to feel love, you can give it to them, and start building a stronger marriage based on fulfilling each other’s real needs. The 5 Love Languages site and quiz are based on a popular book, The 5 Love Languages, that goes into detail about each of the five ways of expressing love in your marriage, and has helped countless couples communicate more strongly and lovingly.
According to my results:
That sounds like a correct assessment to me of my love language needs…I always like it when my husband did things for me, like getting my car fixed, doing the laundry, or changing little man’s poopy diaper. In fact, acts of service were always a sign of love for me, from anyone, even though others don’t feel the same way. My husband prefers physical touch and words of affirmation, so I make sure he always feel loved by remembering which if the 5 Love Languages are important to him and expressing these to him.