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What are the signs of love? What does real love look like and feel like? You want a love story of your own that will last, but how do you know when you really found “the one“? We all know couples that just seem to fit together, to dote on each other, to have a […]
We love cupcakes, especially beautiful cupcakes that are so incredible looking you don’t want to eat them- you want to decorate with them! Here is a collection of ten gorgeous and tasty cupcakes from some of my favorite baking sites, complete with recipes and how-to’s. Simply click on the photo of your favorite cupcakes to […]
These are so cute! Although I don’t have a sweet tooth, I love to bake, and made some fun Easter cupcakes for my honey and his coworkers, and it was so much fun he ended up helping to decorate. Thanks for sharing and have a wonderful weekend!
Love these! Beautiful.
Love the angry birds. thanks for sharing
These look amazing! All of them.
mmm the strawberry ones are my favorite! 🙂
OMGoodness, those cupcakes are amazing!
I love them all – but like the ice cream cones the best!
Those are so cute and creative! Thanks for sharing 🙂
I love cupcakes! I want to try the one with strawberries and the garden ones.
Oh wow! Those are amazing! I love the garden one!
I’m pretty sure I gained five pounds just reading this post. 😉
some people can be so creative!!
I love baking cupcakes and decorating them! I want to try making the ice cupcakes! Too cute!
I love the fire cupcakes how cool. Lots of creative ideas here.
The first one with the chocolate covered strawberries is my favorite. Yum!
Those chocolate strawberry cupcakes look fantastic! I wish my cupcakes turned out this well when I made them. 🙂
Very cute, I love the angry bird ones.
I now have a craving for cupcakes
Oh wow, these are amazing, im gonna have to bookmark this one.
I love the frog.
I love the little garden. That’s darling!
I like the lawnmower cupcake!
Wow! I wish I was that creative, and could decorate like that. But I guarantee you, my cupcakes would not look that good.
I don’t know which is my fav – the angry birds or the ice cream cone! Those are LOVELY 🙂
Champagne Strawberry cupcakes?! I’m in!
Kas
These are all so cute and I’m sure they taste amazing.
These are all AWESOME and I now REALLY want a cupcake LOL
those are amazing!
Those are amazing! I love them all.
we love cupcakes, they are fun and so good
My father used to play with my brother and me in the yard. Mother would come out and say, “You’re tearing up the grass.” “We’re not raising grass,” Dad would reply. “We’re raising boys.” ~Harmon Killebrew Fathers matter. So does keeping the important things in perspective. The lawn will always be there, but children grow […]
I love that! Such a great way to look at life. We often worry too much about the little things and parenting our children is our number one priority.
Perfect!
I 100% agree with this. Time goes by so fast. Enjoy the moment and create some memories
So true!
Love this and such a great outlook on things.
So true! I love pictures like that 🙂
Love this post Penelope!
I’m so blessed to have a husband who is an extraordinary father to our children.
Great quote.
True story. 🙂
Awesome post. That is what being a dad is all about: keeping things in perspective
The fashion world forecast for the fall 2011- winter 2012 hot color trend? Shades of green, from earthy green to emerald green. The popular new color trend in fashion and beauty is coloring everything from clothing and accessories to beauty and home furnishings. What do you think of this new trend? Forest green, olive, military […]
I really like the color green too but have no clue what color suits me. I’m guessing probably emerald green but have no clue. I don’t think I own anything for winter that’s in green either.
Green is my favorite color!!! I love it.
I love green. This is a great color for a redhead like myself!
Loving the green! I typically don’t wear a whole lot of green but it sure is pretty.
I have always been a fan of green and love the green nail polish!
I love the emerald green. Such a pretty color! Those nails are so pretty too, I’d love to do something like that for the holidays.
I love Green clothing and have been wearing it for years, the nail polish is awesome. (I may have duplicated this post, sorry!)
Green is my favorite color!
Yay! I love green 🙂
I love the nail polish!! Thanks for posting. I have to shop now… 🙂
I love green – it’s the color we used for our wedding! We had a bright green a shade between teal and emerald almost. But I really love the olive/khaki shades.
Green is my absolute favorite color but oddly, I rarely wear it. My skin is so pale I just feel weird in dark colors.
Green has always been my favorite color. I’m happy to see there’s lots of options this fall!
I try to change my “color” every month so my nail polish will match my fashion style. I may do green in December since it goes so well with auburn hair. Now off to buy green nail polish!
This reminds me of the Emerald City in the Wizard of Oz. I love these colors!! I just recently bought lots of blue sweaters and noticed that greens are hot this season too.
I love all of the greens!
looks nice, but with 23 yrs of green in the military it is not our fav color around here
I like green, but I think of all the colors, green is probably the least in my closet. I do have a few olive and military greens.
Green is one of my favorite colors.
I love green! As a bonus, it goes really good with my green hair.
I love the color green! Green makes my eyes stand out.
I love all the green!
Green is my favorite color! Well… Except for neon green.
I absolutely love green!
I love to bake pies, and beautiful baked treats are a feast for the eyes. Strawberry topped cheesecakes, lattice cherry pies, and braided bread loaves are incredibly visually appealing and irresistible, whetting the appetite while everyone excitedly waits to enjoy them. Here are some other wonderful ideas for beautiful baked treats from around the ‘net […]
I would say this is definitely an art you have mastered! I am jealous. Beautiful pastries. 🙂
The cupcakes look delicious.
Some of those are almost to pretty to eat… almost. LOL. They look yummy!
These are some awesome how-to’s. I’ll pin a couple pictures so I can always come back to this. I really like the filled cupcakes one.
I recently made a cupcake with a cookie ball inside. It was delicious.
Everything is just beautiful! The leaves are fantastic!
This really puts me in the mood to bake!
I love lattice topped pies. Gorgeous!
That stuff looks delicious!
Oh wow, look at those perfect leaves! All of these are just beautifully done!!
such a delicious round up and that apple pie Ohhhh I want to eat it… dang I ment cherry pie but I couldn’ go back an correct my self UUUGH
I love the leaf trim on the pie crust … and I LOVE the idea of a strawberry in a cupcake. That would be awesome.
I think I just gained 10 pounds! Yummy ideas! Love the leaves for the fall pie!
I am going to try the leaf border on the pie crust…or something similar. Even if you do a store bought pie and then embellished it a little, it would make it look so much better!
I have no skills in this area lol. Those are beautiful baked treats!
These are all so beautiful! I can make good tasting food, but it’s not always visually pleasing. I really need to work on that
I make cupcakes all the time, but have never made creme, fruit filled, etc. I need to do that, soon!
These look absolutely delicious! The pie is making my mouth water. 🙂
I am not into baking pies, but you do a great job
love these ideas!
Great tips! They all look like gorgeous desserts!
These are great signs. Couples I’ve seen get divorced always fail to do at least one of these.
So true!
Ah – true love! Great post!
I’ve always felt that I had a pretty strong marriage. Now after reading your ten signs of a good relationship, it just reassured me that we “Do” have one. Thanks for sharing.
This is so great, Penelope! I’m happy we’re BFF connected. Looking forward to more posts by you.
Fawn
Great list. My Dad always told me that you would know a man loved you when he wanted to provide and protect.
Those are so true! Many marriages fail because they don’t do one or more of these things.
That’s very sound advice!
I guess it is real love for me and my hubby!! Yay!
those are some good ones, but I found in 35 years you must give each other their own space
Those are all wonderful, every one of them!
I hope most couples have nearly the complete list!
all very important points!
Love these and so true!
Love, love, love this.
What beautiful and powerful post about recognizing shared true love! I’m tweeting this to share with my readers right now!
read this daily and nightly.
think about these ten listed.
it will make you a better bf.
I’m sure that very often these rules are broken.
Great ideas! In the end, though, don’t you
think romance is largely a function of your compatibility with your partner?
Now THIS list contains all signs of true love! I’ve stumbled upon so many lists similarly titled that sound like they’re written by a 12-year-old. Things like “you can’t stop thinking about him” or “everything reminds you of him” or “you want to impress him.” This list is what love really is. This is the kind of love I am growing and want to stay in.
I agree with all of the things that you say. It boils down to commitment and respect. When there is both, the love flourishes in the safety of the relationship. Deborah Byrne (married for over 30 years)
I agree!! <3 <3
wow! did you hit the nail on the hammer with this post, this was very beautiful and so well put. And i am with you on all of it. thanks for sharing.
I feel like I should print this and keep it on my wall as inspiration to keep me hopeful and help me believe I’ll find the one. I just had my heart broken and need to believe this exists. Even though in my logical mind I know it does, my broken heart hasn’t gotten around to believing it.
It exists (and you find it only when you make room for it by letting the wrong people go).
Wow penlope, you said it well
This is quite wonderful. Something that I find is a good indicator of love, is that you are “for” * each other. You want what’s best for them and they for you. All these add up to being “for” the other person. Well done. Lucky me, I have this!
*conversely, if that’s missing, RUN! don’t waste time on someone who isn’t “for” you…it’s not love, it’s some other agenda.
All wonderful things …. However , I’ve noted three things or signs when I, as a mother, have noticed my kids making good or bad choices for a spouse
1. You become a better person … You are just better, kinder, more mature, happier etc
2. You grow closer to God.
3. You grow closer to your family and their family.
These three characteristics become obvious to those that love their kids and want to see them happy in a good marriage. When I would witness poor behavior or attitude and unhappiness and moodiness—- bad sign!!! When I see them pulling away from God and the development of a prayer life —-bad sign…. When I see the couple growing closer to each other but at the same time pulling closer to each others families as a coule —good sign!!!
I totally agree as well, however; I rushed into getting married thinking he was the one and shortly after just 2 years came to the realization that he wasnt the one for me. I feel so much guilt because my ex exemplified everything I read on here, but the sad part is our feelings weren’t mutual, therefore; I couldn’t reciprocate what he did for me! I can’t believe my marriage was annuled and I’m once again alone! I have made many mistakes in my life and thought my marriage is one thing I could count on, because I made sure I did the right thing to get the right guy. I always told myself that I would only marry once and cherish it to the very end. I thought marriage was one thing I would hold sacred til death do us apart, what a joke that was on my part! I am extremely disappointed in myself in how I handled my marriage and is in fear that I won’t be given a second chance in the future because of the person I turned out to be. I wish my ex was a horrible man so I could move on quicker & easier but he’s not he’s a good man so it’s been very difficult! I wish I never met him to spare all the greif I put him through, I truly never meant to hurt him! Now that I’m out of his way, I hope he will meet a very special lady someday, he deserves all the love and respect a good woman has to offer!!! Although, this was my decision it still hurts like hell marriage was one thing I held true to my heart but now its tainted that I don’t know anymore about my life my future I’m so hurt and confused I just don’t know anymore…….
I enjoyed reading this list. The things listed are indeed good predictors of true love. Before committing, people should read this list. I wish I did.
About love
Beautifully written…very well said. Thank you!
These are all very good signs – I am sitting here nodding my head as I went through the checklist! 🙂
This is cool, but it has some flaws…
1. No pessimism, doubt, or insecurity? That sounds pretty unhealthy to me. Feelings like that are normal, especially when entering into a very intimate relationship. If you never question your relationship, how can you know he/she’s the one?
2. Wanting to spend time alone and with other friends is normal as well. Sometimes you might come up with an “excuse,” to be alone simply because you want to be alone! It’s not good to spend all of your time with your S.O. A lot of marriages fail because one or both people forget to have their own social life.
When thinking about entering an intimate relationship, you should question things… but if you still have questions, it’s not a good idea to enter into it. Some people like taking risks and the excitement of the uncertain, but when it comes to something like this, I just want to be with someone who loves me and makes me feel safe, not with someone that I have to wonder about. I like drama in movies, not my love life (but that is just me…everyone is different).
I didn’t say anywhere that having friends is not normal (who would think that? lol). Friendships are wonderful, they enrich our lives. I don’t think too many marriages fail because of a lack of an outer social life (I actually think many marriage fail because a lot of people have too much of a social life that doesn’t include or consider their spouse- they still live like they are single), but having a full social life and good friends does add a lot to our overall happiness.
I suppose the whole social life thing is a matter of opinion and of the kind of marriages you’ve witnessed. I know that my parents, and the parents of many of my friends, got divorced because they spent too much time focusing on their spouse and not on their own lives. So that’s what I’ve seen.
I had that a long time back, but now I just feel like I wont be able to find love ever again.
Number 8 is huge for me! You always have to have each other’s backs.
omg this a good one.guess its fine bcse i just felt only part of those in my relationship 🙂
This is beautifully written, these are the exact same feelings that I am feeling right now with my significant other. Falling in love truly is wonderful.
Great post! I love the last one – you feel safe. That is so important. Happy SITS day!
A beautiful post. Said so well. Love all the items on the list because they are so true. Happy SITS day. 🙂
Guess I’m in love with my husband! Numbers 5 and 8 are big for us. We’re quite the opposites so we really concentrate on appreciating each other and everything each of us offer rather than worrying about how different we are or what we’d like to change about each other.
We also have noticed in many of our relatives that they go to each other every time there’s a little squabble and “confide” in everyone in the family rather than going to each other. It seems like a betrayal as well as injurious. We have really tried to avoid this to protect each other.
Thanks for the post….over from SITS
I have been married a long time and this is spectacular advice. I am so pleased to see your SITS day.
Very sweet post. Happy SITS day!
{Kathy} Having been married for 20 years, I agree with everything you stated in your post. I think these are things teenagers should consider while they are dating.
Thank you for all these great reminders. I hope you’re enjoying your SITS day!
Phew! I think me and my husband are good. 🙂 We’ll be celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary on August. And we still have all of the above.
Love this. 🙂 Respecting one another is huge. Can’t have a relationship without it. Stopping by from SITS!
Great list!
Stopping by from SITS today. THis is a great list. They’re all so true. I’ve been married now for 23 years and I still feel every single one of those items!
This is a great post. I think that “fight fair” and “protect each other” are so important. Thanks for sharing and Happy SITS Day!
Wow. Enlightening post. Thanks for sharing this….
Stopping in from SITS!
Happy SITS day!
Beautiful list, and all very true. My husband and I don’t fight much, but we try to keep it fair and on the up and up.
This is quite wonderful and so inspiring and true. I can attest to that! Happy SITS Day!
That’s so sweet. I love the picture of holding hands at 90. (yes – I know it’s just a picture and not like you or something.) Happy SITS day!
TRUTH! Wise words.
Beautifully written and great thoughts about a happy relationship!
I found the right man the first time, too. But so many of the other women my age did not. All they do is complain about their husbands. Just makes me so sad!
Having just celebrated our 24th anniversary, your list is spot-on! Well said!
Spot on. And it’s so sad that so many people are unwilling to adopt this list in their own marriages. Love is a verb–not just a feeling–and it takes work……everyday committing to what you’ve said above.
Great post. Loved the point about protecting each other, not bad mouthing each other. It’s sad when people who are supposed to be in love can’t even be kind to each other.
I completely agree with your list. Happy SITS day!
LOVE this! It’s so true. Stopping by from Sits! Happy day to you!
This is wonderful. Well written and oh so true. Thank you for sharing! Stopping by from SITS.
Good post, feeling safe and protecting each other is very important. Visiting from SITS.
This is a great list =) A good reminder for us to look upon our own relationships and ask ourselves if we’re treating our partner well.
Great photos and list. I especially agree with number 3. The second part of #3 is the best, speak well of your spouse. Definitely helps your relationship and makes lunch conversation more positive.
LOVE THIS!! Happy SITS Day 🙂
Love this!
SO true! Love it and my husband!!
Yes, I agree with your list. Love is always defined as roses, kisses in the rain and early days romance. Real love is much more than this; real love is when an old man pushes his wheelchair bound wife without complaining, it’s when a woman jokingly looks to heaven when her man says/does something “funny” for the umpteenth time, it’s when a couple have no money but feel wealthy…and on and on… 🙂 xx
And you don’t demand anything at your partner’s expense…
This just made me realize that my best guy friend might really be the one. Still too young to say anything, and I have years to go before anything serious should be looked at…but based on right now, if this article is true, I just refound someone again.
I love #5! Accepting each other, flaws and all, without wanting to change too much is so important. Feeling safe is also something most people don’t talk about. Feeling safe enough to be yourself is huge.
Awesome post!
Good one on love.
Is that is true love??? what about being mad about him think of him day and night..being seduced by his every move..drowning in his eyes and losing your mind!! all of what you said I feel it with my partner saved secured and peace he is everything I’ve ever dreamed of the real man..but still..I don’t have that firing feeling that melting into him…I’m afraid of leaving him and regret..help me see clear 🙁
You should feel passionate and excited about him too, otherwise it’s just friendship. Don’t settle!
I’ve been married for 20 years, and my wife and I are childhood sweethearts. We lived together for 3 years before we were married, and are still best friends. That’s true love.
Great post Penelope. It’s important not to take your spouse for granted.
Love this list. In a relationship for just ovrr a year and see these things with us. I often say I feel safe with him, in every way. Only thing they left out was communication. So important to be able to, and necessary to be able to talk about anything and everything. This time round I find it amazing that we can talk for hours about nothing and evercomfortableything. But Penelope, you have to have that desire or as someone else said, it’s just friendship and you are settling cause it’s what you know. There has to be a hunger. Don’t settle…not fair to either of of you.
So true!
Whats the different between carrying an loved
Great list!
I love this!!! 🙂 That’s how I feel about hubby! <3
What a great post and awesome photos.
These are great tips
When listed and laid out like this, everything seems so simple, yet in everyday life, some of these can be easy to forget and a good relationship can be taken for granted. Thank you for the well needed reminder!
Love all 10 of them and especially the last.
The last is one many people are unable to come to grips with. They think their partner ‘might’ be off doing bad things behind their backs. Lacks trust. Lacks honesty and probably lacks open discussion.
If you feel safe, you’ve got a great relationship going so hang on tight for a great ride!
So True, I absolutely love this.
I love this!
I love those first few months of new bliss!
That is a beautiful, but sadly rare thing you describe.
Aw! I absolutely love this. Some of the points are simple things that so many people forget sometimes. Thanks for touching on those. Great post!