My friend Nichol is another wonderful blogging friend with a sweet love story. She is visiting us from Kiddie’s Corner Deals and always speaks so well of her husband that I asked her to share a bit about their relationship to help us celebrate Valentine’s Day.
How did you meet?
I moved to Chris’s school in 1994, I was in 7th grade. He was actually the first person to introduce himself to me, saying “so your the new girl, Nichol?” In the most snobbish way I said “yes, why who are you?”
What was your courtship like?
Amazing! Chris and I started dating in late 1997, 4 months later he moved to Florida and I was just heartbroken. Two months after he left, I hopped on a Greyhound bus to be with him. We knew we were meant for each other. I had a very difficult childhood without love and had to grow up much sooner then I wanted. Chris was and has always been my rock, my best friend. He got me out of a very bad time in my life and I could never thank him enough for that.
Tell me about the proposal
Oh this is such a funny story. A few months before Chris proposed he was telling me how sappy he would be; flowers, a huge poem and the big question on bended knee. I said you’ll never propose to me.
I was a customer service manager in a grocery store, closing that Valentine’s Day in 1999. Around 10PM that evening, Chris came in to visit me on break. I was walking out of the office when he opened his hands, there was a box in them, and hesaid “do you believe me now! Will you be my wife?” I giggled and said of course I will!
How do you make each other happy after marriage for all these years?
You know this is so hard. Our marriage has been so trying with our first born almost passing away at birth, the home we built in foreclosure due to those medical bills, extreme depression that made me very ill and ultimately I moved back home here to NY. Chris never left my side though. We help each other in every way, shape and form. I cook dinner, he washes the dishes after. If I’m folding clothes, he’s putting them away. I’ll dust, he’ll vacuum. Marriage is about teamwork and that has kept us happy all these years. Also, we have never been the type that needs or wants material things. As long as we have each other we are happy.
What is one piece of advice you’d give to others about finding the right person or being happily married?
Communication! Without it, there is nothing. We have been together 17 years and married 13 this August. We didn’t communicate as well in our younger years and learned that we have to talk to each other about our concerns and thoughts. Communication is the key to a strong marriage. Not yelling at each other. Remember, there are two of you, two people that have different views. But when you communicate those views, you can both be considerate of one’s feelings.
Thank you Nichol! Happy Valentine’s Day!