Valentine’s Day is coming up, and in honor of the upcoming holiday, some wonderful women around the blogosphere have agreed to share their love stories and “how we met” stories here. My friend Jenn from TheRebelChick.com is our guest today, and here is her own love story:
I love when people ask my husband and I how we met. I always respond with the same three words…
“In a bar.”
The fact that I met a guy in a bar, began dating him…and married him four months later isn’t all that shocking. People do it all the time. What shocks people about my story is that it happened over 10 years ago.
And we’re still married.
When we met, I was in the process of ending a relationship and didn’t really notice him – but he noticed me. He noticed, and he waited patiently for me.
It took about 4 months – long enough for me to get over my ex and move him out of the “friend zone.” We began spending a lot of time together and before I knew it, we were talking about getting married. It was just a silly joke at first. He was in the military and would joke around about how after we got married, we would travel together…and I would laugh and agree, “yeah, sure, after we get married.”
Then he would joke about how he’d always take me shopping when he got his reenlistment bonuses when we were married. And how he would pick up my daughter from school for me when I had to work late – after we were married.
I don’t recall when it happened, exactly, but at some point, I stopped laughing when he would say things like that. We took a weekend trip to Washington, D.C. for Memorial Day weekend, and as he carried me on his shoulders through Arlington Cemetery, he said that after we were married, he wasn’t going to carry me around anymore. Neither of us laughed.
That night, I told him, “we should probably just get married.” and we didn’t laugh. We began planning our wedding.
People like to think that you can’t meet a quality person in a bar – but that was back before online dating and those match-maker websites. Well, AOL and Yahoo had personals sections, but those chat rooms were full of married men and pedophiles. All we had then were bars, clubs, the workplace and church. People tend to forget that. People are shocked when I tell them we met in a bar, and when they ask me how long we’ve been married, and I tell them almost 11 years, they are even more shocked.
You meet quality people in surprising places every day, if you pay enough attention. And those male friends that you just don’t see that way? Well, I didn’t see my husband that way either – until I did.