Happy couples are everywhere, but even the best marriage takes work and goes through periods of, well, down-time. Stress, financial worries, family issues and more can weigh down on you and you find yourselves taking out your frustrations on the people you love most…usually your spouse and kids. A great way to ease the tension in a marriage during those blah life moments is to have fun together, and apparently the kind of fun you have makes a difference in whether you have a happy marriage or not.
Many happy couples have a date night, which is a fabulous idea, especially if you have kids and don’t otherwise get to spend much romantic time alone. It turns out, though, that most happily married couples have another habit that keeps them bonded. Not only do they have fun once in a while alone together, but happy couples also have fun with other happy couples in strong marriages. In fact, couples who are friends with other conjugally blissful folks (as opposed to having no friends, unhappily coupled friends, or a lot of single friends), and have double date nights or spend time socially with those happy pairs, tend to have the strongest and most durable marriages. Spending time socially with other couples who are positive about marriage reinforces your own bond, makes you feel good about being with your mate, and who doesn’t want to have fun anyway?
Double Date Night With Other Happy Couples Supports A Strong and Happy Marriage
What does this mean for you? Well, if your social lives revolve around always being alone together, or spending your evenings apart going out with your single friends, this doesn’t bode well. It also doesn’t help to have friends who mistreat their spouse, complain about marriage, encourage you to leave your spouse at home and go out without them, or otherwise cause more stress for you. Having some single friends is fine, but striving to find like-minded happily married folks who would love to try out new restaurants with you, team up for a bowling league, or other hobby you enjoy is a great way to socialize together, and with others.
So, if you have no married friends, maybe it’s time to start joining groups and organizations where you can meet some. My church has a Mr. and Mrs. Club, and there is also a local bowling league for married couples, community cooking classes for couples, and more options that encourage you to spend time together, and out with others as well. They are lots of fun, and couples that play together stay together, so look for ways to have a great time together, and make friends with happily married people who feel the same way for a fun double date night!