Is marriage an outdated institution? Or simply a misused one? Many people get married, and many people get divorced, and when this happens an accusing finger is often pointed at the concept of marriage today, the idea being with one person forever, as the problem.
Is it possible that the problem is choosing the wrong person to marry? Or choosing the right person, and not treating your marriage and your spouse with the honor and esteem they deserve? Or that not everyone has to get married, no matter how much your mom wants grandchildren, or how annoying it is that your friends with kids no longer call you to hang out?
It’s better to be happy alone then unhappy with someone. If you find someone you can’t live without, get married using good judgement, then always treat each other kindly and with respect, chances are very good you will have a happy, lifelong marriage. Almost 50% of first marriages today end in divorce because people marry to soon, choose poorly, or get married and then put their marriage and partner somewhere down the line on their list of priorities. Did you know that about 2/3 of divorce are because people get married before turning 21, and weren’t mature enough to make good choices? If you wait until you are over 21 to marry for the first time, your chance of having a lifelong marriage is 75%. That is pretty darned good.
Almost 70% of second marriages end in divorce, so if you don’t get it right the first time, your chances of doing better with someone else (especially once children are involved) becomes more difficult, and if you marry a third time the divorce rate indicates you are 75% likely find yourself single again. It’s easy to see why people think the institution of marriage today is outdated with these statistics, until you look at the ages of those getting hitched, the reasons they choose to get married, and the choices they make after marriage.
Marriage is a blessing for people who want to be married, are mature enough and ready to be married, and meet the right person. If you don’t fit that description and get married anyway, chances are you’ll be a casualty. I don’t feel marriage is an outdated institution if so many people still want to be married, get married (multiple times), and homosexual couples are fighting to get in on the act. Gladiator fighting is outdated. Electrocuting psychiatric patients is outdated. Marriage? It seems to be thriving in the midst of all the hate toward it as an institution.