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Hedges- Loving Your Marriage Enough To Protect It

Hedges book review

I often read about marriages falling apart due to infidelity, whether it be on the part of the husband or wife. In fact, it seems lately that cheating is rampant and couples are struggling to save their marriage. I always wonder how seemingly wonderful, decent people ever get to a point where they begin to lie to the people they love most, and for a person who doesn’t seem that great, and are even willing to throw away years of marriage and the respect of their peers and children to engage in adulterous affairs.

I’m a member of AFA (American Family Association), and I subscribe to their monthly newsletter. They often recommend great books and they mentioned a book called Hedges: Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It by Jerry B, Jenkins, a book about how to prevent affairs and save your marriage. I decided to purchase it (since I write about how to save your marriage and build strong relationships), and am so glad I did. It is a fabulous book that basically deconstructs the break-down of communication and integrity that lead a person in a loving marriage along the path to becoming another statistic and having an affair.

If you are dating, married, or starting over after a divorce, this is a great book to read (with your partner or without) to strengthen your relationships and save your marriage. If you have been affected by adultery, or succumbed to having an affair, Hedges is also a great book…it will explain to you how you even started down the path of adultery, so you can prevent affairs in the future (temptations are everywhere, especially today when men and women work side by side, for long hours, often away from home, all day).

Tips like “Don’t carpool alone with a member of the opposite sex” may sound strict, but it’s incredible how many affairs start at work from simply being alone with someone for twenty minutes, talking about your family and personal life, day after day. Great advice from the author includes “If you strive to prevent the appearance of wrong, you prevent wrong”. He’s right. If you take care of how things look, you take care of how things are. You can prevent affairs by simply never being alone with the opposite sex.

Hedges is a pretty quick read (or maybe it was for me, because I devoured it within days) and filled with “ah!” moments, that explain why it seems everywhere today marriages are crashing and burning all around us, and even the best of marriages can’t seem to prevent affairs. I recommend this book to everyone, because it’s a great way to save your marriage from ever being tinged by adultery, and prevent affairs from being part of your life.




  • Savino

    Sounds like a book that all married couples should add to their daily reads, "ah ha" moments included.

  • lfhpueblo

    Sounds like a book every pastor should have couples read together and take a quiz on before they get married. Premarital couples counseling should be mandatory as far as I'm concerned.